“Beloved, let us love one another: for love is of God…” (John 4:7)
Letting someone know how much you love and appreciate them is the key to a meaningful relationship. Everyone needs to know they are loved; love is the motivating force behind most of our feelings and actions. When you do not think you are loved you shut down, but when you know you are loved, you feel encouraged and motivated and your spirit is awakened.
The need for love is as essential as the need for water. You can not live very long without water and you cannot live without love. When water is being poured out it flows. Love is much the same way when it is poured out there is a flow, and you will notice a distinct flow in a relationship where love is present.
In a marriage there has to be a connection or bond for the love to flow. If either the husband or the wife does not know how to bond then it will be hard to have a flow in the relationship. A bond is like a pipeline that connects the two people together. In your home you know you have a leak in the pipes if you turn on the shower and only a few drops come out. The same is true in a marriage if you start a conversation and only get a few drops are heard, you have a problem.
Other signs that love is not flowing:
- Every conversation ends in a misunderstanding
- Every conversation ends with someone hurt
- Every conversation requires one to be defensive
- Every conversation end up with only one doing all the talking
Because love is as essential for life as water, many marriages are drying up like a dessert waste land. The main plant that can live in a desert is a cactus. If you have ever tried to get close to a cactus you will know they are unlovable and are not very huggable. A marriage can get to this point without the flow of love on a daily basis. If you realize your marriage has become a desert, and your relationship is not growing, it is time to water it. Begin showing love again, love never fails.
Written by Denise Boggs.